Many times, I believe this is code for “I am too afraid to stand up for myself.” Or “I don’t know my self-worth and I will let you prove it.” I have heard more of my female associates say this than anyone and I wonder how it ever got to this point. What happened in their lives that they allow themselves to be run over and over and then fall back on this statement. You can Love, care, help and even do stuff for people without allowing yourself to be run over or used. It takes time to learn and grow, but at what point of the vicious cycle do you wake up and see that only you can stop it? Think about this analogy/question;
When do you stop giving the keys to your only car to the person that continually wrecks it?
You can’t control what others do, but you can control how often they will do it to you.