Oh my, how many times have I heard this, or some variation of it… “Girl, I need a real…” “A real N would know how to do…” Really? If that is what you want, truly, then understand what comes with that request. Know that a Man; responsible, respectful, loving, kind and about his business, in […]
“I want a real N-word!” Read More »
This was one of the initial questions posed to me when I was kicking the blog/podcast idea around. It went something like this… “should a mother kick their kid out of the house but allow their husband to stay for the same violation?” My response to this is possibly. A grown A man is held
Husband and Child accused of the same violation… Read More »
To start, lets level-set; Enable: give (someone or something) the authority or means to do something. Examples of enabling include: Giving money to an addict, gambler, or debtor Repairing common property that an addict broke Lying to an employer to cover up absenteeism for someone who is habitually tardy Fulfilling to others instead of allowing
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Please understand that these are two very different things. You can talk to one another and never communicate. It happens all the time. Talking to one another is just that, a one-way process happening from two different points. Communicating is actually active listening, combined with respect, understanding, openness and vulnerability. This is what makes communication
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I crack up every time I hear something like this. I see people in the middle of absolute self-inflicted craziness that has nothing to do with Christ-like behavior, yet they want it to be blessed. “Lord, as we go out to rob this store, please look over us and bring everyone home safely, AMEN!” Yes,
Many times, I believe this is code for “I am too afraid to stand up for myself.” Or “I don’t know my self-worth and I will let you prove it.” I have heard more of my female associates say this than anyone and I wonder how it ever got to this point. What happened in
“Big heart”, “Love too much”, “Care so much”, etc.. Read More »
You don’t like being told what to do.You are an adult and should be able to come in when you please.You pay most of your own bills and should have a say so in the plan that your phone is on.You want a pet.You have a job and go to work every day too.You want
Adulting is not a part time gig. Read More »
Please understand that just because you have a few similar experiences that seem like racism or systemic racism does not mean you truly understand what it feels like. I read this on FaceBook from a guy with the title “The Love Affair Of an Asian Guy” If people of color talk about their hardships of
A similar situation… Read More »
I am sure this will ruffle a few feathers, but so be it. At what point do we as Black people wake up and start making things happen on a larger scale? When do we get off of our knees praying, trying to assimilate and actually do something as a community? I do believe pray
400+ years of prayer… Read More »
This is the first of my posts and it is to give you the background on the name of my blog. I’ve had the honor of having very enlightening conversations with a variety of people from all walks of life. It has been my experience that there is a common trait among them all. We
“Quit Blaming the Girlfriend!” Read More »
